Couples
TANTRIC MASSAGE
3-Day Staycation Retreat
September 26-28
Experience Freedom In Your Body & Gain Next Level Sex Skills…BOTH OF YOU
NO MORE AVOIDING INTIMACY
NO MORE INSECURITIES AROUND SEX
Join from the privacy of your bedroom to learn the art of tantric massage and alllllll of the skills required to SAFELY SURRENDER and experience PRESSURE-FREE PLEASURE
TRAUMA-INFORMED. GENDER NEUTRAL & INCLUSIVE. INTERSECTIONAL.
Without having to leave your house…
Without getting naked in front of strangers…
Without man buns and the toxic binary of “divine feminine” and “divine masculine”…
SAY YES and learn how to hold and be held in deep, healing, pleasurable sexual space all in three life-changing days
Experience a deep sexual & spiritual connection…
Be an amazing & confident lover…
Safely surrender during sexual intimacy…
Feel absolutely NO PRESSURE to perform…
Give your partner deep pleasure and multiple orgasms…
YouWant To:
Humans are sensitive to energy
Learn how to confidently hold space for yourself and your partner, and watch your sex life transform
So when we learn how to connect the…
Emotional, Physical, & Sexual
THE RESULT?
THE TWO OF YOU
DEEPLY CONNECTED.
SEEN. HEARD. SAFE. CONFIDENT. BEYOND SATISFIED!
I HAVE SEEN OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT WHEN LOVING COUPLES CAN HOLD SPACE FOR THEMSELVES AND ONE ANOTHER
(instead of getting defensive, shutting down, or not speaking up at all)
They can come together to co-create satisfying, fulfilling, pleasurable experiences
WITHOUT HAVING TO MINDREAD OR FEEL LIKE THEY’RE BEING CRITICIZED
Everything in our culture tells us sex should be easy and spontaneous and always feel good and we should want it all of the time
(Spoiler alert! We don’t all have the same libido and our libido doesn’t stay the same throughout our lives)
Say goodbye to the same three positions and the same two sex acts…
Or avoiding sex all together because it’s too hard, comes with too much rejection, or doesn’t feel worth it
Let go of guilt, embarrassment, and avoidance
INSTEAD, get on the same page so you can be co-responsible for creating EROTIC, MAGICAL, and HEALING experiences for both of you
ROSES? CHOCOLATE? CHAMPAGNE?
NOPE.
Let’s focus on safety, permission, authenticity, and sex skills!
This 3-DAY JOURNEY into tantric massage is for:
COMMITTED COUPLES AT ANY STAGE who want to go deeper in their mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual connection with themselves and one another
QUEER AND TRANS FOLK who want to experience sacred sexuality outside of heteronormative, binary paradigms of “sacred masculinity” and “sacred femininity” with gender neutral terms; expansive, inclusive language; and opportunities to explore energetic body parts
WHITE PEOPLE AND NON-INDIAN SUBCONTINENT FOLK who want to explore a tradition within more modern contexts (some versions have always been meant as a practice within daily life) with appreciation instead of appropriation
PEOPLE WHO HAVE SEXUAL TRAUMA HISTORY, HAVE GROWN UP IN RELIGION, OR EXIST IN OUR RAPE CULTURE-ENABLING SOCIETY who want to learn a trauma-informed approach to tantric massage and practice
Read my article, What Is Tantra? A Way of Being, Not Just A Sexual Practice
HOW WE’LL DO IT DIFFERENTLY…
TRAUMA INFORMED
This means we go slow and at the pace of your body. By learning and recognizing triggers as well as how to resource, anchor, and ground on your own and with your partner, we build safety, trust, and opportunities to heal.
GENDER NEUTRAL & INCLUSIVE
This means you won't hear anything about "divine masculine" and "divine feminine" or binary genders. We honor people's pronouns and expression as well as the body parts we're born with, surgically embrace, and energetically embody.
INTERSECTIONAL
This means we acknowledge the systems of suppression that affect our sex, love, and relationships as well as our identity. We work with the myths, violence, and trauma of the culture we've been born into that don't represent our worthiness.
ACCESSIBLE
PLEASE SHARE YOUR ACCESS NEEDS. This means we honor neurodiverse, chronically ill, hard of hearing folk, and those with visible and invisible disabilities. We make captions available and strive to make the space accessible and inclusive by being online and with long breaks.
SAY YES TO DEEP DEEP CONNECTION STARTING WITH YOUR Couples Tantric Massage 3-Day Staycation Retreat!
This training experience includes:
A 3-day staycation experience in the comfort of your own home so your skills don't stay in some tropical hideaway...they're living and breathing in your bedroom
Simple, step-by-step guidance for learning the 8 Phases of Tantric Massage AND the skills and capacity needed to offer and receive them with confidence
Optional morning Guided Sacred Self-Pleasure Sessions during the retreat so you can offer yourself pleasure without your partner’s presence or support
Access to Tantric Massage Guided Videos and guided audios for ongoing learning and exploration after you've completed the retreat so you don't have to remember everything
Add-on Sex & Intimacy Coaching Sessions with me if you want support talking out what you experienced and/or more guidance around more sex and deeper connection
Ongoing monthly Live & Guided Tantric Massage Workshops exclusive to retreat participants so you can keep your capacity alive and skills fresh beyond the retreat
Non-gendered and inclusive language used throughout
SPECIFICALLY YOU GET:
Sacred Setup & Preparation to make your space feel special so you can transform ordinary into extraordinary every week on your own
The accessible and easy to understand 3-3-3 Tantra Intro for a foundation in tantric philosophies, principles, and practices so you can begin to feel grounded in what tantra is about before practicing tantra
My Playful Holding Space Training for learning how to hold mental and emotional space for your partner before exploring physical and sexual space-holding with the Tantric Massage Setup & Positioning
Learning and sensitizing to the strong reactions of stress cycles: Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn and how to feel them from within your own body and track to see if they're happening in your partner's along with a Sexual Grounding Practice to return to any time the person who is receiving tantric massage seems to be having a strong reaction
Periodic reminders to check in with your Turn On Signaling System for sensitizing to your turn-on changing and learning what to do if you want to slow things down or speed things up so the experience isn't over prematurely or end with disappointment
Naming what feels good through a Sensational Presence Practice and working with Four Sexual Feedback Questions for more pleasure without getting defensive or walling off inside
To invite blood flow to get turned on more, get hard and stay hard, you'll learn the External Pelvis Dearmoring Process for tightness and tension in the body when you're offering and receiving to release what's holding you back from experiencing more and deeper pleasure as well as Loving & Caring Genital Touch
Inviting pleasure in the body with different External Genital Strokes and Penetrating Pleasure Guidance for vaginal g-spot, cervical, a-spot, and p-spot orgasms as well as prostate massage and anal exploration
AND SO MUCH MORE....
WHAT’S THE ITINERARY LIKE?
FRI. SEPT 26
7:30 - 8:30 am Guided Sacred Self-Pleasure Session (optional)
8:30 - 9:30 am Online check in
8:30 - 10:00 am BREAKFAST
10:00 - 12:00 pm Welcome & Orientation
12:00 - 3:00 pm LUNCH
3:00 - 5:00 pm Afternoon Session
5:00 - 7:00 pm DINNER
7:00 - 9:00 pm Evening Session
9:00 - 10:00 pm Celebration Lounge & Play On Your Own (unfacilitated)
SAT. SEPT. 27
7:30 - 8:30 am Guided Sacred Self-Pleasure Session (optional)
8:30 - 10:00 am BREAKFAST
10:00 - 12:00 pm Morning Session
12:00 - 3:00 pm LUNCH
3:00 - 5:00 pm Afternoon Session
5:00 - 7:00 pm DINNER
7:00 - 9:00 pm Evening Session
9:00 - 10:00 pm Celebration Lounge & Play On Your Own (unfacilitated)
SUN. SEPT. 28
7:30 - 8:30 am Guided Sacred Self-Pleasure Session (optional)
8:30 - 10:00 am BREAKFAST
10:00 - 12:00 pm Morning Session
12:00 - 3:00 pm LUNCH
3:00 - 5:00 pm Afternoon Session
5:00 - 7:00 pm DINNER
7:00 - 9:00 pm Celebrations & Closing
MEET YOUR GUIDE:
Hey, I’m Daniela (she/they)
WITH OVER TWENTY-FOUR YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, I am a trauma-informed, certified Tantric Sex Coach…though I thinks it's more accurate to describe me as a Sacred Sexuality Coach inspired by tantric and taoist practices. I’m also a Sex & Intimacy Coach for couples and individuals as well as a bi queer woman with professional and life experiences that speak to people in all bodies, of all expressions, and in all relationship dynamics.
I started learning mindset and practices inspired by tantra and taoism in 2014 through Layla Martin, a white American woman, who was taught by Ma Ananda Sarita, a white English woman who for 17 years trained directly with Osho, an Indian guru. My tantric practice is also informed by others like Lama Rod Owens, a Black queer Southern man formally trained in the Tibetan Buddhist and Tantric Buddhist lineage.
I support people to experience more sex and deeper connection with themselves and with their partner(s) without pushing, forcing, avoiding, or performing.
For me, nothing is more important than connection.
Couples Tantric Massage
3-Day Staycation Retreat
SEPTEMBER 26-28
*I don’t believe payment plans should be penalized with higher rates.
That said, paying in full makes a meaningful difference for in my life and for my family. If you're able to pay upfront and choose to do so, you're directly supporting me and the ways in which I reinvest in the communities within which I live, work, and play.
Need a customized payment arrangement? Email me at daniela@danielastevens.com and we'll find a solution that works.