What Is Tantra and Do You Want A Tantra Coach?
If you’re over the age of 40, you probably first heard about Tantra in 1993, when Sting shared about having tantric sex for five hours in a drunken interview for Q Magazine.
Since then, Sting has clarified more about his sex life and spiritual practices with his wife, Trudie Styler, but the first impression has remained.
Many of us still think Tantra is about sex for a long time, orgasm denial, creating a sexual connection beyond the physical, and even one-hour orgasms.
Some of us may know a bit more and associate Tantra with energy exchange, breathwork, and chakras.
Tantra can be about all of these things and so much more.
What is Tantra?
At its core, tantra is a deep, radical, embodied, everyday awakening and liberation practice.
Tantra is a way of thinking, acting, and being in the world that requires a depth and consistency of practice to experience it in your bones. More than a belief system or a simple spiritual practice, tantra is a truth you embody with your whole body and mind with specific practices that support you to live it.
Do You Want A Tantra Coach?
If you long to love and accept your body, your sexuality, and your whole self, working with a Tantra Coach can help.
Tantra invites you to explore all facets of who you are as sacred, wise, and beautiful and to see all expressions of life like this as well.
With specific practices to support you to experience and embody your perfection, wholeness, and uniqueness exactly as you are, a Tantra Coach may start with hang ups and myths about sex and then guide you to awaken to the truth of who you are inside and out within romantic & sexual partnerships, friendships, at work, with family, in community, and in society as a whole.
Do I Have To Have A Partner or Does My Partner Have to Join?
You do not need to have a partner to work with most Tantra Coaches.
While tantra has become synonymous in the western world with sex, tantra is not specifically or only about sex.
Exploring tantra individually with self-pleasure, masturbation, and non-sexual practices is a powerful way to transform attachment wounds and patterns and rewire toward love, pleasure, and self-acceptance.
What Is It Like To Work With Me?
If you and I want to work together, as a certified Tantric Sex Coach, we might explore mindset, intention, breath, sound, movement, and energy through a variety of conversations, exercises, and practices.
As a trauma-informed practitioner, I’ll offer and incorporate trauma resolution principles that gently support you in a slow, attentive, and loving way to bring overwhelmed, anxious, or panicked pieces into a space where they can be loved, held, and experienced from a safe enough space.
How this works specifically is in online video sessions together (I also connect with people in person in San Jose California), we start “cold,” experiencing these as guided meditations and visualizations.
Then I invite you in between sessions to explore them with sensations of turn-on or pleasure, and they can also be explored with self-pleasure, masturbation, and/or partnered sex.
Powerful practices for awakening, empowerment, liberation, and freedom can be found and deeply experienced within tantra.
Daniela Stevens ∙ Sex & Intimacy Coach
Daniela Stevens (she/they) is a trauma informed, certified Tantric Sex Coach as well as a Sex & Intimacy Coach for couples and individuals as well as a speaker and writer practicing somatic abolitionism and appropriated tantra.
Named one of the ten best Sex and Intimacy Coaches of 2023 by DatingAdvice.com, she supports people to experience more sex and deeper connection with themselves and with their partner(s) without pushing, avoiding, or performing.
With over twenty-four years of experience coaching people one-on-one and teaching in college classrooms and wellness spaces, she curates exercises and practices steeped in somatic attachment theory, neuroscience, embodied conflict resolution, trauma resolution, and modern psychology and inspired by ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.
Daniela is a queer cisgendered woman raced as white born in the Bay Area as well as a biological and transnational adoptive parent of three.
She lives and works as an uninvited guest on occupied Ohlone land that’s currently known as San Jose, California in the United States.
For her, nothing is more important than connection.
