Welcome to My Blog
Tantra has become a compelling practice, spirituality, mindset, healing modality, and so much more.
And for good reason; it’s non-dual.
What that means is there isn’t a hierarchy between body and mind.
Sex and intimacy coaching is an unregulated field, and therefore professionals cannot be registered or licensed to provide services.
Also, coaching is generally not covered by insurance and is a broad field that can cover a lot of different methods and services.
My style of coaching involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to support you to experience deep and lasting results through education, self-awareness, and body-based somatic practices.
My wish is that you have an amazing, deep, connected, vibrant, expressive sexual connection with yourself and with your partner.
This is my work. This is my offering.
And when the hypocrisy of our cultures and societies oftentimes show up at the intersections of Puritanical, religious views and capitalizing on the selling of youthful sex and honeymoon sex, our bodyminds get confused and freeze.
This is why my work exists.
"On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you as a couple?"
Mr. and Mrs. Smith is a movie that's spoken to me for a long time.
It was trying to tell me something about long term committed relationships.
I sat with it for years before I figured it out.
Even though it's from a cis white heteronormative framing, it's still about two people experiencing what I call The Relationship Journey.
I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.
I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.
Here's the thing, though.
Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.
I see your partner and you and hold what's possible for you both.
I see the excitement and exhilaration of honeymoon, springtime-like love and sex,
especially in the shift to autumn.
When your partner and you were dating, you cleared out time to see one another, to do things, to have sex.
Sometimes you gave up sleep or money or a lunch hour or seeing friends to laugh and smile and experience one another.
When I was pre-orgasmic, I explored so many things wanting to experience orgasm for the first time.
I felt more than broken; I felt like I didn't belong to the human population (enneagram 4).
Ohhhhhhh I read books. I went to six therapists. I watched videos. I bought vibrating toys.
It's when I read Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm that I was first introduced to the concept of a time container.