SELF-PLEASURE COACHING FOR MEN & PEOPLE WITH PENISES
Get HARD,
Stay HARD, &
LAST LONGER IN BED
for More Sexual Confidence
& Amazing Sex
even if right now you feel like you can’t satisfy your partner
IN AS LITTLE AS 3 MONTHS
YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO:
Last longer during sex
Get hard and stay hard
Let go of pressure to perform
Rely on porn less
Fulfill your partner
Instead of Viagra or a masturbation coach who focuses on edging,
work with a Self-Pleasure Coach who will support you to confidently initiate sex without pills and fully satisfy your wife, girlfriend, or partner
Hey, I’m Daniela(she/they)
WITH OVER TWENTY-FOUR YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, I am here as a Self-Pleasure Coach and certified Sex & Intimacy Coach who won’t judge you or shame you. I aim to make you feel at ease and will support you to experience sexual confidence and amazing sex with your partner.
I’ll support you to build your sex skills so you can know what you want and how to get it.
THIS IS NOT TALK THERAPY. IT’S COACHING.
I support you to take immediate, practical action to get your mind and your penis on the same pagethrough practicing on your own with self-pleasure and masturbation so your partnered sex can be amazing for her and you.
THERE IS NO NUDITY, NO EXPLICIT SEXUAL ENERGY, AND NO SEXUAL INTERACTION DURING OUR ZOOM SESSIONS
Daniela holds space for my emotions and words, which is not something that is practiced very often in society for men.
I have worked with several different life coaches and therapists over the past several years, and Daniela has been by far the most helpful. I came to her with issues or problems with my self-confidence not only sexually but in social situations in general. I feel my self-confidence in ways I haven't felt before, but also in ways I knew were possible.
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IS A SELF-PLEASURE COACH RIGHT FOR YOU?
SINGLE MEN & PEOPLE WITH PENISES who aren’t in a relationship and who want to work on sex and intimacy through self-pleasure before they get into a relationship
INDIVIDUALS who want to connect to themselves and heal and are willing to learn about why they are the way they are so they can be better
PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIPS who want to be confident and know it starts with them first
QUEER, HETEROSEXUAL, and PEOPLE PRACTICING MONOGAMY OR CNM who want support from someone who gets them without needing to explain who they are, their values, or feel judged
Read GQ’s article on What’s It Like To Work With To A Masturbation Coach
WHO IS NOT A GOOD FIT FOR SELF-PLEASURE COACHING?
PEOPLE WHO WANT HANDS-ON TOUCH, INTERACTIVE CAM WORK, SOMEONE TO WATCH, EROTIC MASSAGE, OR A SEX WORKER, but you can search here for a somatic sex educator
PEOPLE WHO WANT A PILL OR A QUICK FIX who aren’t ready to commit to vulnerable and effective inner and outer work
PEOPLE WHO NEED A TRAUMA SPECIALIST and may have specific sexual trauma, diagnosed PTSD, or need to seek other inner work prior to beginning this 3-month container
WHAT DO YOU DO IN SELF-PLEASURE COACHING?
Learn my Turn On Signaling System for sensitizing to your turn-on to change what you do if you want to slow things down or speed things up so the experience isn't over prematurely or end with disappointment
For more blood flow and to get hard and stay hard, learn the Groin & Penis Dearmoring Process for getting rid of tightness and tension in the body
Practice the 8 Holistic Sex Tools that transform masturbation and sex into an experience of tantric sexual confidence
Get in the habit of using my Shifting for Sexual Intimacy Exercise to get you out of your head so you can stop worrying about whether it will happen again so you can relax and enjoy the moment
Build momentum with my Celebrations & Gratitudes Practice for acknowledging what’s working and what’s improving so you can keep going in the right direction
Explore a Five Senses Reality to experience what you want with imagining it in real time like sports psychology
Move through a Sexual Archetypes Exercise to move from who you are in the bedroom right now to experiencing your most alive and confident sexual self
AND SO MUCH MORE....
HOW MUCH DOES SELF-PLEASURE COACHING COST?
ONE EASY INSTALLMENT
$3,600
$2,880*
OR
3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$1,200
$960*
*Discounted price good through January 31, 2026
WHAT DOES SELF-PLEASURE COACHING INCLUDE?
12 weekly 60-minute sessions at the equivalent of $300 $240* per week
The full session time (it’s not based on a therapy hour, which is generally 50 minutes)
A follow-up email right after our session with two curated guided audios, practices, exercises, resources, and considerations
A check-in email four days later for accountability and support
*Discounted price good through June 30, 2026
I wanted to feel a deeper connection to my sexuality—not for a partner, but for me.
Since working with Daniela I can honestly say I am more sexually fulfilled now.
- J W
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT SELF-PLEASURE COACHING
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Your commitment is for a 60-minute session each week in addition to time for home exercises and practices, which are usually about 15 minutes, 2-5 times per week.
You commit to meet for twelve sessions within three months with the option to move to every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis after that.
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Sex therapy is for people who have active trauma, sex addiction, porn addiction, or who otherwise find value in pathology and diagnosis.
Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to learn and take action to get what they want instead.
The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.
If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.
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I don't take insurance, and here's why.
FIRST, I am a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.
SECOND, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (Thank you to Amanda Walters for these insights).
FINALLY, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.
I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.
I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.
Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.
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You arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.
We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.
The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.
The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.
At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.
Finally we end with you sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.
I offer clients my two favorite moments to create another perspective from the outside looking in, a ritual many people look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.
Afterward I send you an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.
You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.
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Daniela Stevens (she/they) is a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with a specialization in Mex’s Sexuality through the VITA™ Institute (formerly the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality).
She has additional specializations in Relationships, Tantric Sex, and Jade Egg.
With a Masters Degree in Communication Studies, Daniela taught college classes in person and online for over a decade on things like interpersonal communication, public speaking small group communication, critical thinking, argumentation, and upper division writing.
She has additional trainings in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, somatic abolitionism, and trauma resolution, Daniela is committed to liberation away from social conditioning and stepping into self-responsibility and interconnectedness.
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There is no nudity, there is no explicit sexual energy, and there is no sexual interaction during our self-pleasure Zoom sessions.
Everyone will be fully clothed in every session.
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I offer a 15-minute phone call and an paid 60-minute trial session to discover if we are a good fit for one another.
After our time together, I send you a follow-up email with resources as well as an email checking in with you a few days later.
To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise.
If we decide to work together, next steps include reviewing and signing a trust service agreement to make our expectations known and clear to one another.
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Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear.
Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide staying comfortable is more important than moving through difficulty and toward growth.
I value honesty and am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our commitment to a discussed container is coming from a place of fear or because we’re not a good match.
Sometimes unexpected life events can affect your ability to fully participate in a coaching container.
If this happens, I ask that you communicate with me, so we can create a plan.
In cooperation with your commitment and agreement, I commit to working with you for a specific amount of time.
People are welcome to voluntarily remove themselves from the coaching container.
However, participants who voluntarily exit or discontinue any program will not receive a refund on funds already paid.
Exiting the agreement early financially impacts me, and for this reason, my expectation is that you fulfill your commitment to pay the remaining balance over the duration we mutually agreed upon if we don’t have an open conversation around next steps for everyone.
If you are READY TO COMMIT to yourself, and if you are ready to invest in
Lasting longer
Getting hard and staying hard
Letting go of pressure to perform
I can support you toward confidence and connection.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I am here with you.
Your Investment in Your Sexual Confidence:
ONE EASY INSTALLMENT
$3,600
$2,880*
OR
3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$1,200
$960*
*Discounted price good through June 30, 2026