SELF-PLEASURE COACHING FOR MEN & PEOPLE WITH PENISES
Experience
MORE SEXUAL CONFIDENCE
& DEEPER CONNECTION
IN AS LITTLE AS 3 MONTHS
even if right now you don’t feel like you’re enough
IT’S NORMAL TO WANT TO:
Last longer
Get hard and stay hard
Let go of pressure to perform
Rely on porn less
Instead of Viagra or a masturbation coach who focuses on edging,
work with a Self-Pleasure Coach who will support you to confidently initiate sex without pills and fully satisfy your wife, girlfriend, or partner
Hey, I’m Daniela (she/they)
WITH OVER TWENTY-FOUR YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, I am here as a Self-Pleasure Coach and certified Sex & Intimacy Coach who won’t judge you or shame you. I aim to make you feel at ease and will support you to experience sexual confidence and deep connection to yourself and your partner.
I’ll support you to build your sex skills so you can know what you want and how to get it.
THIS IS NOT TALK THERAPY. IT’S COACHING.
I support you to take immediate, practical action to get your mind and your penis on the same page through practicing on your own with self-pleasure and masturbation so your partnered sex can be amazing for her and you.
THERE IS NO NUDITY, NO EXPLICIT SEXUAL ENERGY, AND NO SEXUAL INTERACTION DURING OUR ZOOM SESSIONS
Daniela holds space for my emotions and words, which is not something that is practiced very often in society for men.
I have worked with several different life coaches and therapists over the past several years, and Daniela has been by far the most helpful. I came to her with issues or problems with my self-confidence not only sexually but in social situations in general. I feel my self-confidence in ways I haven't felt before, but also in ways I knew were possible.
- S
READY TO GET STARTED?
Your Investment in Your Sexual Confidence:
ONE EASY INSTALLMENT
$3,600
$2,880*
OR
3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$1,200
$960*
*Discounted price good through June 30, 2026
Here’s What’s Included:
12 weekly 60-minute sessions at the equivalent of $300 $240* per week
The full session time (it’s not based on a therapy hour, which is generally 50 minutes)
A follow-up email right after our session with two curated guided audios, practices, exercises, resources, and considerations
A check-in email four days later for accountability and support
*Discounted price good through January 31, 2026
I wanted to feel a deeper connection to my sexuality—not for a partner, but for me.
Since working with Daniela I can honestly say I am more sexually fulfilled now.
- J W
But how do you know if you’re in the right place?
This 3-MONTH JOURNEY into self-pleasure coaching is for:
SINGLE MEN & PEOPLE WITH PENISES who aren’t in a relationship and who want to work on sex and intimacy through self-pleasure before they get into a relationship
INDIVIDUALS who want to connect to themselves and heal and are willing to learn about why they are the way they are so they can be better
PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIPS who want to be confident and know it starts with them first
QUEER, HETEROSEXUAL, and PEOPLE PRACTICING MONOGAMY OR CNM who want support from someone who gets them without needing to explain who they are, their values, or feel judged
Read GQ’s article on What’s It Like To Work With To A Masturbation Coach
This is NOT for:
PEOPLE WHO WANT HANDS-ON TOUCH, INTERACTIVE CAM WORK, SOMEONE TO WATCH, EROTIC MASSAGE, OR A SEX WORKER, but you can search here for a somatic sex educator
PEOPLE WHO WANT A PILL OR A QUICK FIX and who aren’t ready to commit to vulnerable and effective inner and outer work
PEOPLE WHO NEED A TRAUMA SPECIALIST and may have specific sexual trauma, diagnosed PTSD, or need to seek other inner work prior to beginning this 3-month container
How Are We Going To Achieve This Together?
WEEKLY 60-MINUTE SESSIONS:
The full weekly session time (not a therapy “hour” that’s actually 50 minutes). 12 weekly sessions within 3 months
SUPPORT & ACCOUNTABILITY
Check-in emails four days after sessions for accountability and support
ACTION IN BETWEEN SESSIONS:
Based on what we’ve talked about, embodied, and explored in session, a follow-up email with at least two guided audios, practices, exercises, and resources to support you to reinforce and deepen your change and transformation
TALKING, BODY PRACTICES, & MINDFULNESS:
I invite you to talk about what you're experiencing like you might in therapy with verbal, cognitive reasoning.
This is often referred to as top-down healing.
I guide you to connect to your body and the sensations, imagination, and wisdom there, even if you've never done it before.
This may be experienced as going from the bottom up or going down and in.
I support you with mindfulness, awareness practices to slow down reactions and to cultivate the capacity to respond.
This is a sideways practice.
Using all three together supports a whole body and mind approach that goes deep and supports long-lasting transformation.
COMPASSION & FIRMNESS:
Whether being gentle or direct is what you need to be supported and take steps forward, we will oscillate back and forth to get you where you want to go
SCIENCE & ENERGY:
Approaches using neuroscience, modern psychology, and trauma resolution alongside inspiration from ancient traditions like Tantra and Taoism
FLEXIBILITY:
Some room within our commitment for emergencies, scheduling conflicts, vacations, rest, and integration when we do twelve sessions within three months
I'm happier.
My erection has been much more firm, and when I ejaculate the orgasm is always stronger and longer. I have not needed porn to masturbate, just the practices.
- Josh
Frequently Asked Questions:
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Your commitment is for a 60-minute session each week in addition to time for home exercises and practices, which are usually about 15 minutes, 2-5 times per week.
You commit to meet for twelve sessions within three months with the option to move to every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis after that.
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We start with 60-minute sessions together via Zoom most weeks.
You’ll be invited to focus on two or three things in between sessions.
They are often one active practice or exercise that takes time and presence, and a second, more passive item that you can explore while cooking, driving, walking, showering, etc.
Curated exercises and practices are provided for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions along with passive considerations.
These things may include activities from the fields of somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session.
Finally, you will also receive consistent accountability and support with email check-ins in between sessions.
They exist to acknowledge and celebrate your growth and/or if you find yourself feeling confused or stuck.
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Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.
Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.
The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.
If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.
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I don't take insurance, and here's why.
First, I am a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.
Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (Thank you to Amanda Walters for these insights).
Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.
I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.
I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.
Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.
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You arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.
We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.
The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.
The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.
At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.
Finally we end with you sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.
I offer clients my two favorite moments to create another perspective from the outside looking in, a ritual many people look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.
Afterward I send you an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.
You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.
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I work with people in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, monogamous, and fluid or dynamic relationships.
Working with couples to around connection and communication on their sex life and relationship is also a part of my offerings. We can alternate coupled and individual sessions as requested and advised.
I will work with you to curate a coaching experience relevant for your relationship structure.
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When we work together, I support you with the most effective teachings steeped in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, neuroscience, holistic healing, trauma resolution, and modern coaching blended with ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.
We use embodied exercises, practices, and toy/tools as I guide you to uncover blocks, fears, and resistance and how to hold, heal, and integrate them to reveal the wholeness and health that is within you.
The VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method is often where we’ll start.
Foundational beliefs of this method are:
Sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful, and natural
Pure love is the primary force that sustains us
Meaningful relationships are necessary for a joyful life
Holistic tools working with the felt sense around awareness, mindfulness, guided meditation, breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma resolution, energy work, sounding, and movement support us to resolve even the deepest challenges.
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I am a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with a specialization in Relationships through the VITA™ Institute (formerly the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality).
I continued my studies pursuing additional specializations in Tantric Sex, Jade Egg, and Men's Work.
I have a Masters Degree in Communication Studies with a focus on Women’s Studies and pedagogy, which has facilitated me in teaching college classes and workshops on interpersonal communication, small group communication, critical thinking, and argumentation.
With additional trainings in somatic attachment therapy, embodied conflict resolution, somatic abolitionism, and trauma resolution, I am committed to liberation away from social conditioning and stepping into self-responsibility and interconnectedness.I am also a gentle, restorative, and yin yoga instructor, having studied with dozens of acupuncturists, chiropractors, yoga teachers, and educators in various disciplines.
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Not at all.
We will discuss sex, love, and relationships and reference anatomy, but everyone will be clothed in each session.
Some clients experience some discomfort with discussing these topics, which is understandable.
I invite you to share what you’re experiencing—each session is a safer space to bravely share openly, even if that means naming that it feels awkward.
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I live and work on the ancestral and unceded traditional territories of the Ohlone people that’s currently known as the Bay Area of California in the United States.
Because we can connect via Zoom, I work with clients from all over the world.
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I offer a free 15-minute phone call and an online 60-minute trial session for $300 USD to discover if we are a good fit for one another.
After our time together, I send you a follow-up email with resources as well as an email checking in with you a few days later.
To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise.
If we decide to work together, next steps include reviewing and signing a trust agreement and a service agreement to make our expectations known and clear to one another.
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Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear.
Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide staying comfortable is more important than moving through difficulty and toward growth.
I value honesty and am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our commitment to a discussed container is coming from a place of fear or because we’re not a good match.
Sometimes unexpected life events can affect your ability to fully participate in a coaching container.
If this happens, I ask that you communicate with me, so we can create a plan.
In cooperation with your commitment and agreement, I commit to working with you for a specific amount of time.
People are welcome to voluntarily remove themselves from the coaching container.
However, participants who voluntarily exit or discontinue any program will not receive a refund on funds already paid.
Exiting the agreement early financially impacts me, and for this reason, my expectation is that you fulfill your commitment to pay the remaining balance over the duration mutually agreed upon if we don’t have an open conversation around next steps for everyone.
If you are READY TO COMMIT to yourself, and if you are ready to invest in
Lasting longer
Getting hard and staying hard
Letting go of pressure to perform
I can support you toward confidence and connection.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I am here with you.
Your Investment in Your Sexual Confidence:
ONE EASY INSTALLMENT
$3,600
$2,880*
OR
3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
$1,200
$960*
*Discounted price good through June 30, 2026