You deserve to feel deeply loved in your relationship.
You can feel so safe inside your relationship.
You can co-create a sense of deep acceptance in your relationship.
You can experience a deeper connection
in sex & intimacy in your relationship.
Relationship Coaching
Relationship coaching can take you beyond the ordinary world and into the realm of deep connection. It is personally tailored to your relationship to completely embolden your sex and deepen your intimacy no matter what you are experiencing now.
I have explored a variety of tools, techniques, resources, and practices from over 20 years of teaching in college classrooms, in online universities, and in yoga studios alongside my studies at the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality and supporting relationships with people just like you.
With relationship coaching, your partner and you will be supported step-by-step through the most effective processes, practices, and exercises for co-creating a deep connection together that shows up in your sex and in your intimacy.
With one-on-one support and accountability
in 75-minute online coaching sessions,
you’ll be invited to experience:
Clarity
Connection
Communication
Deep Healing
Erotic Intimacy and Sexuality
The tools you will learn through coaching will strengthen and deepen your love whether you’ve been together for two years or for 30.
Think of relationship coaching as the start of the next chapter of your relationship where you get to choose your own adventures in sex, intimacy, and in life.
In each session, you’ll learn more about your desires and your partner’s desires and feel just how deep they go.
They will challenge you, inspire you, excite you...
And bring you to the threshold of a new life you can co-create together that is both sexy and intimate while also being deeply healing and nourishing.
“We didn’t know what to expect with couples coaching—like how would it work, if it could be neutral, and how we would manage triggers if we weren’t in person, but Daniela explained things so well and adeptly navigated working with the both of us. It actually felt fun and was easier than we thought.
Daniela creates a really safe, neutral space. In addition, we had some anxiety about rekindling our sex life, but she created really accessible practices that felt safe and easy. We both saw how we needed to take more self-responsibility and that has helped our daily interactions.”
“The work my partner and I did with Daniela was profound. We were in a pivotal point in our relationship, one where we were really questioning if we should even be together. Constant arguing, constant triggering, constant annoyances. We couldn’t seem to find a balance for months, and both of us were fed up with it all and ready to throw in the towel. Daniela helped us find clarity: Did we really want to breakup? She helped us find solid ground. She helped us see each other’s inner child needing to be loved by ourselves. She helped us see and hear each other in new ways. In only a few sessions, she gave us hope.
I definitely recommend working with Daniela. Whether you’re having relationship “problems” or you just want to have better communication and sex, Daniela ought to be your go-to relationship coach. As a sacred sexuality specialist and empowerment coach myself, I recommend her to my clients and will continue doing so. ”
RELATIONSHIP COACHING IS FOR:
Couples with an already great relationship
who want to evolve their sexual experiences and deepen their connection to create an even more amazing life together.
Couples who want to heal
and are willing to access love and compassion around woundings to create a solid foundation for experiencing intimacy together in the long-run.
Couples who want to rekindle their relationship
and are in a long-term relationship or marriage where they have forgotten who they are and how to be together.
“Daniela works from the heart. She is kind, caring, and supportive. If you are unsure about seeking help from her you need not worry. She will make you feel valued, worthy and cared for. She will help you to understand your worth and find the voice that you need to have your desires realized. She will help you on your healing journey.”
“Before talking to Daniela, we were having trouble finding mutual ways to express desire. We seemed to be on different tracks when we were being intimate.
While working with Daniela, we learned new ways to look at our love making and methods of connecting that we had never thought of. Synchronized breathing was a major breakthrough that worked for us.
With Daniela’s coaching we learned that there are new methods out there that helped our situation. Discovering that we weren’t “hopeless” was a relief.
Daniela is kind and open to working and helping everyone. She can assist you in transforming your sex life for the better. We loved that we could work with her together, and she was able to see what connection we were missing. ”
If you love your partner
and feel like you’re supposed to love your life,
and you’re ready to go on an adventure and explore:
Finding out what you really want and need
Deeply connecting in ways you never thought possible
Falling even more deeply in love
Finally letting go of what’s been holding you back all these years
Wild, fun and epic erotic experiences together
THEN RELATIONSHIP COACHING IS FOR YOU.
A happy, fulfilling relationship doesn’t just happen!
Take a MOMENT and think about this….
When you fell in love, did you ever imagine that one day you would be living a dull, flat and stagnant life?
…or be bogged down with obligations, responsibilities and commitments?
…or forget who you are, what you want and why you even want to be with your partner?
…or feel emotionally disconnected from your partner and sexually unfulfilled?
…or agree to couples counseling and date nights just to have some semblance of hope?
…or lose sight of those butterflies in your stomach?
Nope. No one imagines that.
And yet far too many couples believe
this is the life sentence for long term relationships.
The saddest part is when they just shrug their shoulders and say:
“That’s just what happens in long-term relationships.”
EXCEPT IT ISN'T TRUE.
What if sex and intimacy, just like your health or parenting, aren't just something you “let happen”?
What if instead there are ways to cultivate and nourish sex and intimacy that create a fun and inspired relationship?
What if the outcome has more to do with your willingness to make your relationship a regular focus rather than the last priority?
What if your relationship doesn't have to stay the same, but instead your life together deepens and becomes more rich so sex is wild and your connection is so strong that you want to be together ten, twenty, thirty years down the road?
What if home wasn't a third job filled with more expectations and chores, but a place to exhale and be supported around your deepest desires?
What if the bedroom wasn’t a place of performance and pressure, but a sanctuary for sharing your deepest expressions of love and sexuality with your partner?
Imagine a deep and intimate connection with your partner filled with the beauty of vulnerability.
Imagine leaving the pressure to perform behind and entering a space of spontaneity and relaxed erotic play.
Imagine feeling desire in your body and desiring your partner in a sensuous and sexual relationship.
Imagine a fulfilling life with a foundation of love and safety that's also filled with adventure and fun.
This is what relationship coaching is designed to offer you.
NO MORE TALK THERAPY.
NO MORE SCHEDULED SEX.
NO MORE UNINSPIRED DATE NIGHTS.
THIS IS YOU AND YOUR PARTNER
EMPOWERED TO CO-CREATE YOUR LIFE
TOWARD THE DEEPEST CONNECTION.
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
COUPLES In-Person
75-minute sessions
in San Jose, California
$4,920 USD flat rate
or
$984 USD deposit
& $1,312 USD per month*
COUPLES Online
75-minute sessions
Online via Zoom
$4,500 USD flat rate
or
$900 USD deposit
& $1,200 USD per month*
* I don't believe in an interest penalty if a deposit and payment plan works best for you; these add up to the same total number.
Both in-person and online rates for couples include:
The full weekly session time (not a therapy “hour” that’s actually 50 minutes)
Emailed guided audios, practices, exercises, and resources for you to engage in between sessions
Check-in emails for accountability and support four days after sessions
12 weekly sessions within 3 months with some room for emergencies, scheduling conflicts, vacations, rest, and integration
INVEST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, YOUR LOVE, AND YOUR SEX
“Before talking to Daniela, we were apprehensive of couples coaching. We thought having someone from outside of our relationship would make us critically analyze what we had. This was not the case with Daniela as she held us with love and showed us we shouldn’t be hard on each other—to be patient with each other’s process in change.
It was a breakthrough moment to see how acceptance and patience on both sides of the relationship can lead to more love.
Daniela guided us with grace and love and was with us each step of the way.”
“Working with Daniela was hugely impactful for our relationship. Neither of us knew what to expect (and we were both a bit nervous!), but Daniela held us with the utmost intention and care every step of the way. Through our work with her, we were able to uncover the core issue behind an old, uncomfortable pattern that had caused a lot of angst in our relationship. With this new awareness, we have been able to respond to each other with more love and greater understanding, resulting in both of us getting more of what we need in the relationship. Relationship coaching is a bit intimidating and new, but it is also extremely powerful and impactful. We are so grateful we took this step and had this time with Daniela.”
Who Am I?
Hi, there! I am Daniela (she/they pronouns).
For me, nothing is more important than connection.
With close to twenty years of experience teaching in college classrooms, yoga studios, and working with people one-one-one, I am here to support you in connecting with your inner wisdom, your body, and your partner.
For me, connection is where love and compassion meet, and it is the foundation for co-creating the relationship that meets your needs, heals your wounds, and fulfills your deepest desires.
Whether it’s clarity, improved communication, closer connection, profound healing, or an erotic intimacy and sexuality that makes you weak in the knees, you can experience epic together, and I will guide you there.
“During our session Daniela recognized and delved into my fear and anxiety with such tenderness. She gave me useful tools to experience those feelings in positive ways should they happen in the future.
Daniela is also a compassionate listener and a keen observer of the things unsaid. I felt she listened to me, recognized my anxiety, and handled it in a professional and kind manner. Her future clients will have made the best choice in choosing to work with her as I could not think of anyone else I know that I would like more as a therapist or coach.”
“Being in a new relationship, that to me felt like it was moving very fast, I had fears around what moving in together would do to the dynamics and how we would navigate through them. My fears were grounded in losing myself in the relationship, of becoming a mundane, boring, domestic couple whose sex lives slowly fizzled into nothingness. I desired very much to explore what it meant to take this next step in our relationship and to have a plan and tools to use moving forward.
Working with Daniela allowed me to explore my own relationship with relationships, to understand my needs and wants within a relationship and to discover what they are for my partner too. We’ve learned to hold each other with love and compassion at all times, even the times when things aren’t great.”
Answers to Your Most Common Questions
Q:
HOW MUCH TIME DO I NEED TO DEDICATE EACH WEEK?
A:
Your commitment as a couple is for a 75-minute session each week in addition to time for home exercises and practices, which are usually about 15 minutes, 2-5 times per week. You commit to meet for twelve sessions within three months with the option to move to every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis after that.
Q:
WHAT IS INCLUDED?
A:
Weekly Zoom calls sessions lasting 75 minutes each. Embodied exercises and practices from the fields of neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session. Individual email support between sessions so you also feel safe in between sessions. Curated exercises and practices for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions. Firm accountability.
Q:
HOW IS COACHING DIFFERENT FROM THERAPY OR COUNSELING?
A:
Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.
Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.
The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.
Q:
DO YOU TAKE INSURANCE?
A:
I don't take insurance, and here's why.
First, I am a certified sex and intimacy coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.
Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (h/t Amanda Walters for these insights).
Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.
I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.
I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.
Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.
Q:
DO YOU ONLY WORK WITH COUPLES IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS?
A:
No. I also work with people one-on-one to gain clarity on what they want from their relationships.
Along with dyads, I also work with people in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, and fluid or dynamic relationships. I will work with you to curate a coaching experience relevant for your relationship structure.
Q:
WHAT METHODS DO YOU USE?
A:
I integrate contemporary coaching with neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom. I work with body awareness, breathwork, communication skills, modern coaching modalities, role-play, guided meditation, and emotional release exercises.
Q:
WHAT ARE YOUR QUALIFICATIONS?
A:
I am a certified integrated sex, love and relationships coach with a specialization in relationships through the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. I continue my studies there pursuing additional specializations in Tantric sex, jade egg, and men's work. I also have a masters degree in communication studies with a focus on women’s studies and pedagogy. I have taught college classes and workshops at traditional and online colleges in areas such as public speaking, writing, interpersonal communication, small group communication, critical thinking, and argumentation. I am also a gentle, restorative, and yin yoga instructor. I have also studied with dozens of acupuncturists, chiropractors, yoga teachers, and educators in various disciplines.
Q:
IS THERE ANY KIND OF NUDITY OR WEIRD STUFF INVOLVED?
A:
No. All sessions are fully clothed. We will discuss sex, love, and relationships and reference anatomy, but everyone will be clothed in each session. A few clients experience some discomfort with discussing these topics, and I invite you to share what you’re experiencing in every moment
People usually feel very comfortable talking with me, and that’s one of the biggest reasons I offer this work—to provide safe spaces for people to explore these topics.
Q:
WHERE DO YOU WORK FROM?
A:
I work from my home office in Silicon Valley in the United States. Because we can connect via Zoom, I work with clients from all over the world.
Q:
WHAT IF I DON'T GET ANY BENEFITS AND WANT TO END OUR WORK RELATIONSHIP?
A:
Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear. Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide to do things that don’t contribute to growth. I am all about honesty, and I am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our sessions is coming from a place of fear or because we’re simply not a good match.
And if you aren’t getting any benefits? If this happens, we can stop working together and explore options for a better fit.
Q:
DO YOU OFFER A FREE SESSION SO WE CAN SEE IF WE LIKE YOU?
A:
I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation to see if we are a good fit for one another. You may also choose a no-obligations, 60-minute trial session or discovery session for $300 if you want to pick my brain or get a better sense of how we may work together. To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise along with the resources I offer you in a follow-up email.
MORE QUESTIONS?
I invite you to share with me any
additional questions or concerns you have.
You can email me at daniela@danielastevens.com
or schedule a consultation with me.
“While working with Daniela, I felt that my boyfriend and I were able to go a little deeper in understanding our path and goals with our relationship. We were able to do a heart connection activity that allowed for us to be vulnerable and safe together. We now can express our truth without judgement and hold presence for and with each other.
Daniela is a bright, thoughtful, intuitive, active listener and guide. She creatively works with where you are at to move you forward.”
YOUR INVESTMENT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
COUPLES In-Person
75-minute sessions
in San Jose, California
$4,920 USD flat rate
or
$984 USD deposit
& $1,312 USD per month*
COUPLES Online
75-minute sessions
Online via Zoom
$4,500 USD flat rate
or
$900 USD deposit
& $1,200 USD per month*
* I don't believe in an interest penalty if a deposit and payment plan works best for you; these add up to the same total number.
Both in-person and online rates for couples include:
The full weekly session time (not a therapy “hour” that’s actually 50 minutes)
Emailed guided audios, practices, exercises, and resources for you to engage in between sessions
Check-in emails for accountability and support four days after sessions
12 weekly sessions within 3 months with some room for emergencies, scheduling conflicts, vacations, rest, and integration