On this adventure, your commitment to yourself and/or to your partner is three months.

This is to support you to see it as a process and a journey.

In the beginning, people can feel hopeful and excited and optimistic.

As we continue, people can feel awkward, vulnerable, reactive, and resistant.

To integrate awareness, new skills, and create with ourselves and/or a partner(s) takes time.

When these feelings come up, it’s important to allow them instead of give up.

Realizations can be uncomfortable, and working through them is where growth happens.

I commit to showing up for four months to support you, and I ask for your commitment to yourself to do the same for a mutually-beneficial relationship between us.

After three months, you’ll have the option to shift to weekly, every other week, every three weeks, once a month, or on an as-needed basis.

Each week you’ll dedicate 90 minutes for two people or 60 minutes for one person to our coaching sessions with additional time in between sessions for exploring resources, home exercises and practices along with passive considerations.

These can range from five minutes to an hour depending on our area of focus.

Each month you’ll engage in four sessions either 90 minutes in length for two people or 60 minute for one person via Zoom with some months having an integration week.

You’ll be invited to focus on two or three items in between sessions.

They are often one active practice or exercise that takes pause and focus, and a second, more passive item that you can explore while cooking, driving, walking, showering, etc.

These items may include embodied exercises and practices from the fields of neuroscience, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom led within session.

Curated exercises and practices are provided for you to do each week on your own to deepen and integrate the work we’re doing in sessions along with resource and passive considerations.

You will also receive consistent, no-nonsense accountability.

Individual email support is available between sessions if you find yourself feeling confused or stuck.

Therapy and counseling are a great fit for people who want to talk about their sex, love, and/or relationship problems and gain awareness of the problems themselves.

Coaching is more appropriate for people who are aware of the problem and are committed and ready to take action to get what they want instead.

The coaching I offer involves a wide variety of tools, practices, and techniques to get you results as quickly as possible.

If you want to move from struggling or okay to thriving and flourishing, coaching is how you get there to experience and embody it.

I don't take insurance, and here's why.

First, I am a certified sex and intimacy coach and not a licensed therapist or counselor. Currently the latter is more regulated and systemically supported by insurance companies who may cover a portion of rates.

Second, when insurance companies do cover services, they collect your personal data. This can include how often you meet, how long you meet for, over what period of time, and the different types of visits you have, like relationship and/or individual sessions. Insurance companies also can have access to more intimate details in your file, which often includes notes, plans, exercises, practices, recommendations, and more (h/t Amanda Walters for these insights).

Finally, insurance companies are in the business of extracting labor and making money. Reimbursement rates tend to be low, certain diagnoses when working with clinicians are not covered under insurance plans, and claim denial is a common occurrence.

I am here for confidentiality, greater safety, and privacy.

I am here to value my gifts and offerings to you.

Not taking insurance ensures I can protect your confidentiality to its fullest, and it means I can unapologetically earn a living that supports my family and me to thrive.

You or your partner and you arrive to Zoom, and we enter into that time together with the intention to be present and connected.

We begin with a grounding and centering practice then share celebrations and gratitude prompted from the previous week’s desires and your overall focus.

The purpose is to acknowledge what is working and build off of it.

The bulk of the session we focus on naming and exploring the next steps toward what you want to experience together by talking, engaging body-based practices, and/or mindfulness and awareness practices.

At the end, I review two practices (one active and one passive) with you to explore in between sessions over the next week and beyond.

Finally we end with sharing two favorite moments, two moments you’re grateful for, or two insightful or ah-ha moments.

I offer clients my two favorite moments to create a third perspective from the outside looking in, a ritual many people look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.

Afterward I send you an email with the two exercises as a reminder, and I check in by email four days later.

You can use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself, your partner if we’re all working together, and/or hit reply and share with me what you’re experiencing.

When we work together, I support you with the most effective teachings steeped in neuroscience, holistic healing, trauma resolution, and modern coaching blended with ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom.

We use embodied exercises, practices, and toy/tools as I guide you to uncover blocks, fears, and resistance and how to hold, heal, and integrate them to reveal the wholeness and health that is within you.

The VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method is often where we’ll start.

Foundational beliefs of this method are:

> Sexuality is sacred, beautiful, powerful, and natural

> Pure love is the primary force that sustains us

> Meaningful relationships are necessary for a joyful life

Holistic tools working with the felt sense around awareness, mindfulness, guided meditation, breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma resolution, energy work, sounding, and movement support us to resolve even the deepest challenges.

I have over 20 years of experience coaching people one-on-one as well as teaching in college classrooms and yoga studios.

I am a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with a specialization in Relationships through the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality.

I continued my studies pursuing additional specializations in Tantric Sex, Jade Egg, and Men's Work.

I have a Masters Degree in Communication Studies with a focus on Women’s Studies and Pedagogy, which has facilitated me in teaching college classes and workshops on interpersonal communication, small group communication, critical thinking, and argumentation. 

I am attachment-informed, trauma-informed, and practice Somatic Abolitionism.

Not at all.

We will discuss sex, love, and relationships and reference anatomy, and everyone will be clothed in each session.

Some clients experience some discomfort with discussing these topics, which is understandable.

I invite you to share what you’re experiencing—each session is a safer space to bravely share openly, even if that means naming that it feels awkward.

I live and work on the ancestral and unceded traditional territories of the current day Muwekma Ohlone tribe otherwise known as the Bay Area of California in the United States.

Because we can connect via Zoom, I work with clients from all over the world.

I offer a free 15-minute phone call and online 60-minute discovery session or trial sessions for $300 USD to discover if we are a good fit for one another.

After our session, I send you a follow-up email with resources as well as an email checking in with you a few days later.

To reflect a committed, mutually-beneficial relationship, I require payment for my time and expertise.

If we decide to work together, next steps include reviewing and signing a trust agreement and a service agreement to make our expectations known and clear to one another.

Working on sex, love, and relationships can trigger fear.

Fear can influence our actions, and we may decide staying comfortable is more important than moving through difficulty and toward growth.

I value honesty and am happy to have a frank conversation with you to find out whether a desire to end our commitment to a four-month container is coming from a place of fear or because we’re not a good match.

Sometimes unexpected life events can affect your ability to fully participate in a coaching container.

If this happens, I ask that you communicate with me, so we can create a plan.

In cooperation with your 4-month commitment, I commit to working with you for four months.

One or both people are welcome to voluntarily remove themselves from the coaching container.

However, participants who voluntarily exit or discontinue any program will not receive a refund on funds already paid.

Exiting the program early financially impacts me, and for this reason, my expectation is that you fulfill your commitment to pay the remaining balance over the duration mutually agreed upon if we don’t have an open conversation around next steps for everyone.