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Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space

I am all over the place. Maybe you can relate.

My brain is foggy.

My body is unsteady.

My desires are inarticulable.

This is What Fun and Play Have To Do With Sex and Pleasure

I spontaneously went on a road trip to my friend's friend's place The Bearded Lady Pub to have some fun food (think beignets, fried Oreos, Twinkies, churros, cookie dough bites, etc.)

I gave myself permission to follow this whim despite not having any intentions or expectations.

Maybe inspired by Esther Perel's recent 7-day exploration around the art of foreplay...Perel first invites participants to focus on play.

"I'm tired" is the new "I'm fine." You're not tired. You're not fine.

I'm tired.

Are you?

I've noticed that for some people "tired" can be code for boredom or pessimism, frustration, irritation, impatience....

Sometimes it encompasses overwhelm, disappointment, doubt, or worry.

Restoring the 5 Stages of Sexuality

I'm not sure about you, but I'm a pretty serious person.

I'm focused. I'm precise. I'm intense.

That doesn't sound like much fun.

Especially in the bedroom.

Annnnnnnd if I explore these through the five stages of sexuality, these "serious" qualities sound more like: