"On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you as a couple?"
Mr. and Mrs. Smith is a movie that's spoken to me for a long time.
It was trying to tell me something about long term committed relationships.
I sat with it for years before I figured it out.
Even though it's from a cis white heteronormative framing, it's still about two people experiencing what I call The Relationship Journey.
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Connection Doesn't Happen at Warp Speed; It Requires Space
I was peeing in the car every few seconds from a UTI
Several years ago I developed a UTI so painful that in the car on the way to the emergency room, I was peeing every few seconds onto a stack of cloth diapers I'd placed under me.
The few seconds of relief I had paled into comparison to the sharp, burning, twisting pain I felt.
The UTIs I've experienced I've never directly correlated to having sex either consciously or unconsciously.
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"Wait. Wait. Can you say that again?"
I'm in the kitchen, and my youngest who is eight is next to me saying something about turtles and the beach.
A piece of me is replaying a past conversation with someone else as I pour some tea.
I recognize another piece wants to be in the present and connected to what he's sharing with me.
This is What Fun and Play Have To Do With Sex and Pleasure
I spontaneously went on a road trip to my friend's friend's place The Bearded Lady Pub to have some fun food (think beignets, fried Oreos, Twinkies, churros, cookie dough bites, etc.)
I gave myself permission to follow this whim despite not having any intentions or expectations.
Maybe inspired by Esther Perel's recent 7-day exploration around the art of foreplay...Perel first invites participants to focus on play.