Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.
What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?
The answer I came up with?
We Need More Guidance Around Self-Pleasuring and Sex
Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing
This is How To Return to the Beginning of Sex and Intimacy Within and In Love
This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful
This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love
Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.
I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.
Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.
The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.
How to Not Get Overwhelmed and Numb To It All
I'm not sure where your thoughts or emotions are at right now, friend.
And over the last few days I've been running through a spectrum of grief and hope and despair and anger marked with sparks of action and creativity.
I've also been ruminating around what feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels (she/her) calls my spot on the wall.