relationship

Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?

Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?

Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.

What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?

The answer I came up with?

Heal Within The Stone Hearth of Your Relationship for Fire and Light

You.

Me.

What do we know about supporting long term relationships to thrive, to flourish...

To experience the fullness of being human...

To explore the richness, depth, passion, and connection of being alive?

7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence

I need to remind us that sex is important.

Intimacy is important.

Closeness...is important.

We are created for pleasure.

We are designed for interdependence.

The Most Difficult Season of Your Relationship Might Need Support

You are not alone.

If this has been the most difficult season your relationship has faced...

If this has been the most difficult chapter of your life...

You are not alone.

This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love

Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.

I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.

Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.

The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.

Side by Side, Back to Back, This is How You Two Co-Create Your Life Moving Forward

Maybe the two of you have different ideas around what to do with your time.

Maybe the stress is affecting you each differently.

Maybe what you need right now is different.

And...

What is there really even to say to one another?

I'm feeling the urge to share so many things with you.

And...

I am concurrently holding a piece that's says, "What's the point? Where would I start?"

I'm curious if you're experiencing something similar when you turn to look at your partner at the end of the day...at the end of this unique week.

This is Why Unspoken Conversations Linger Between You Two

I'm sorry your partner and you had that same circular argument again that led to...nothing.

I'm sorry you spiraled into that same funk you've been experiencing for years except now it feels...hollow.

It's like the sensations and emotions aren't even fresh anymore.

They're played out.

This is Why You Can't Solve Your Relationship Problems

Many years ago, I found myself laid off from my teaching job, caring for two young children, and floundering. 

Oh, yeah. And my spouse and I were fighting. 

I would yell at him from the doorway while he was sitting on the couch looking at me blankly.

Then I would leave in a rage, wondering where I could go to figure things out and wondering who would understand.

Have Each Other’s Backs This Holiday Season with This Exercise

I'm experiencing a great deal of instability in my life ranging from finances to health to relationships.

It's keeping me in survival mode hour-to-hour these days.

But...

When I woke up this morning to the day before a major holiday in the US, I thought of you.

This Is Why You Have to Co-Create The Boundaries of Your Relationship

I feel some shame around admitting it...

And...

My partner Shaun and I went through many years where we locked ourselves into domestic roles and stereotypes that weren't really and truly us.

We took on "husband" and "wife."