"On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you as a couple?"
Mr. and Mrs. Smith is a movie that's spoken to me for a long time.
It was trying to tell me something about long term committed relationships.
I sat with it for years before I figured it out.
Even though it's from a cis white heteronormative framing, it's still about two people experiencing what I call The Relationship Journey.
Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?
7 Steps for Reclaiming Our Pleasure, Connection, and Interdependence
The Most Difficult Season of Your Relationship Might Need Support
Gently Support One Another's Bodies and Sexuality with Loving Touch
Are you feeling an auspicious opening toward the light today?
This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love
Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.
I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.
Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.
The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.
How to Not Get Overwhelmed and Numb To It All
I'm not sure where your thoughts or emotions are at right now, friend.
And over the last few days I've been running through a spectrum of grief and hope and despair and anger marked with sparks of action and creativity.
I've also been ruminating around what feminist marketing consultant Kelly Diels (she/her) calls my spot on the wall.
This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality
Side by Side, Back to Back, This is How You Two Co-Create Your Life Moving Forward
This is how COVID-19 stress is affecting my relationship. How are you doing in yours?
What is there really even to say to one another?
Does Your Relationship Err on the Side of Caution or Take Risks?
How are you doing?
How are you really doing?
I'm not the type to ask if I didn't really care.
So I honestly invite you to hit reply and share with me what you're really experiencing, really noticing in terms of your sensations, emotions, and thoughts.