gratitude

9 Qualities for Determining the State of Your Union

"On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you as a couple?"

Mr. and Mrs. Smith is a movie that's spoken to me for a long time.

It was trying to tell me something about long term committed relationships.

I sat with it for years before I figured it out.

Even though it's from a cis white heteronormative framing, it's still about two people experiencing what I call The Relationship Journey.

Which is More Closed Off: Your Heart or Your Sexuality?

For just a moment, close your eyes or let them gently unfocus.

Breathe into your heart.

Is it open?

Can you expand and soften into your heart with some ease?

Acknowledging Where We Are To Get To Where We Want To Be

I am so grateful for Eliza's (she/her) reminder yesterday...for the permission her post offers me.

Because I have a pretty great relationship with gratitude. I come into celebration and thankfulness and gratitude quite easily.

And yesterday as I was acknowledging a lighter aspect of US Thanksgiving,

in addition to acknowledging National Day of Mourning and learning deeper around the myths and erasure of indigenous people,

I found I could barely lean into gratitude without a spring of grief upwelling right next to it.

This is how you can honor your body's wisdom and sensitize to the celebrations of life

When I sit down to write to you, I consider what I'm going through, what I'm learning, and what I need.

I also pour over the threads I witness weaving themselves through the lives of my clients.

Yesterday some pain in my body had moved on, and I felt a sense of joy and happiness reignite within.