individuation

Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?

Are You Willing To Grow With Your Partner?

Back when I was training as an Integrated Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I remember having conversations with my colleagues about what to look for in a partner.

What makes having the sex you want and the intimacy you desire possible in a relationship...for both of you?

The answer I came up with?

This Is How You Move Toward Embodied Self-Love

Something so powerful and deep happened in a coaching session a few weeks ago.

I've been thinking about it and wanting to share it, thinking it might click a few things into place for you, too.

Because most of us...we want to experience love with a partner, with our person.

The idea of self-love can feel so far-fetched and inaccessible because we first experience love in relationship and attachment to our primary caregivers.

I've got deep questions around relationships right now.

Distancing in the form of individuation and differentiating yourself from your partner is normal and healthy.

It supports autonomy and growth and prevents enmeshment and...

I dare say...

a toxic intimacy that snuffs out the possibility of passion.