compassion

Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing

Embody and Experience Your Inner Child for Deep Healing

At the intersection of two different triggers last week, I let myself sink into my darkened bedroom and cloudy thoughts.

I pulled the curtains across the brightness of the afternoon and climbed into my bed.

I wrapped the sheet and blankets around me tight.

This is How To Invite Heartbrokenness To Teach You

I have been deeply grieving the last several weeks and letting my body show me how to forgive myself and others, how to heal, and how to love.

There's no pushing or forcing, no "should" or "shouldn't."

There's a deep surrender to "This is how I feel right now...This is how it is in this moment."

None of Us Wants to Be Abandoned...and how I want us to love more and deeper

A client wrote to me recently and asked,

"Can you help me to want her less...care about her less...and love her less than I do so that I am not putting pressure on her to communicate with me or have to be intimate with me emotionally?

Is that realistic?"

Several days ago I threw a glass at the floor and shattered it....

I wasn't angry.

I wasn't triggered.

And several days ago I picked up a glass and shattered it on the floor.

I was frustrated.

I was beyond my capacity.

This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality

You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.

Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.

You may be single or dating.

This is How To Give Yourself What You Most Need Right Now

I feel like I'm in the tornado outer funnel right now...

Just hanging on...

And hoping I don't get spit out in a manure patch.

This was shared with me recently, and I thought, That's about right.

This is Why Video Chatting with Your Loved Ones is So Hard

Before all of this happened, my partner and I already had a lot of experience with distance.

Being in an international, long distance relationship is hard.

  • Closed borders.

  • She's a frontlines healthcare worker.

  • I'm a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach.

This Is Why Giving Everything To Your Work and Kids Means Your Relationship Is Non-Existent

Last week I was sitting in a session with my psychologist when he said, 

"You should commit suicide if you don't feel worthy."

My jaw didn't drop open (uh, I was too busy being polite), but the shock did hit me so that I blinked several times wondering if those words had actually come out of his mouth.