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To Be Chosen, You Have To Communicate Your Needs First

I see you relaxing back, receiving so much love and care and support that you need and want.

I see you doing it with ease and it coming to you so lusciously.

Here's the thing, though.

Most sitcoms don't show the characters knowing what they want, communicating what they want, or getting what they want.

4 Steps for Clearing Time To Connect With Your Partner

When your partner and you were dating, you cleared out time to see one another, to do things, to have sex.

Sometimes you gave up sleep or money or a lunch hour or seeing friends to laugh and smile and experience one another.

This is How You Remember Who You Are and Explore Tantra As Playful

Sometimes I forget that I went 30-something years without ever experiencing orgasm.

Sometimes I forget I am a certified Tantric Sex Coach.

Sometimes I forget that we're here for the full-spectrum experience of being human.

This is How You Take Ownership of Your Sexuality

You may not be having sex or as much sex as you want with your partner during this pandemic.

Maybe—like me—your partner and you are sheltering-in-place in different locations.

You may be single or dating.

Side by Side, Back to Back, This is How You Two Co-Create Your Life Moving Forward

Maybe the two of you have different ideas around what to do with your time.

Maybe the stress is affecting you each differently.

Maybe what you need right now is different.

And...

This is how to acknowledge your 2019 relationship and set up for deeper connection in 2020

In that liminal space between the December holidays and the coming of the Gregorian calendar's new year,

( My family also celebrates the Ethiopian new year, which falls on September 11. )

I find myself reviewing 2019 to acknowledge and celebrate,

and also so I can heal and grow and flourish in 2020.

5 Things You Can Do To Reclaim Your Relationship

I invite you to turn and look at your partner. 

Maybe you just need to look up, and there they are across from you.

If you can't see your partner from your vantage point and you're in the same space, carry this email with you and go find them. 

If your partner and you are in different locations, I invite you to scroll to a picture of them.